When I lost my first husband in 2002, it was terrifying. I did things on my own until I got so lonely I thought I was going crazy.

So, I joined an online bulletin board/support group for people widowed young. At 46 I was one of the older ones. There were so many folks on that board there was a sort of endless supply of people to choose from. I chose wisely and ended up with a glorius group of friend, both virtual in in person and also ended up meeting the widower I'm not remarried to.

Nobody understands being widowed like another widow. We had get togethers, weekend trips etc. We cried and I can say I've never laughed more in my life.

So, David, if you can find a group that works for you, do so. I can't recommend the groups I tried through hospice (my husband had the same issues) which were filled with older people, all women and all wanting to go to lunch and little else. I still wanted to go to concerts at night, to travel, and much more. I like men too much to limit myself to ladies only.