What an interesting topic.

I would venture a guess that most people would like their love returned but you cannot make someone love you.

You can have powerful attractions to someone who will never return the feelings. You can experience the feeling of loving someone without the love being returned but it ends up not feeling so great if it goes on too long (and who knows really how long is too long).

Sometimes love just happens. And sometimes it can be devastatingly one sided.

I’m in the not wanting to beat a dead horse school. I want my love returned. The times in my past I felt unrequieted love, gave it a shot, verbalized my feelings only to end up in the friend zone (and quite honestly, when you tell someone who isn’t into you except for friendship that you are feeling more for them it usually kills the friendship in the end…it’s a lot of pressure) it felt much better to look for someone new than to keep going for an impossibility. It’s not the same as giving up hope…

…and when that happens you can pretend that while you are off involved with a wonderful, loving partner, the unrequieted person is now seeing you as an amazing catch and wishing, wishing, wishing (yeah…that is romantic nonsense!)

To be fair, when I’ve been made aware of the strong romantic feelings of another I have no inclination towards it’s usually not flattering. It’s usually just plain uncomfortable. It’s usually someone I’ve already decided was off putting. Then it’s just a cluster fuck from that point on. As in, how do I avoid EVER being in the same room with this person.

I’ve never felt romantic feelings towards someone who didn’t share them that changed their mind about me. It’s such a common trope- but does it ever really happen? Does the brown haired girl with glasses ever take her glasses off and dye her hair and suddenly the guy she never attracted is nuts over her?

Those movies are irritating.

When you click with someone you click. When you want each other it is worth the wait. If you accept less than what you want you run the risk of being involved with the wrong person when the right person finally enters your life.