This sounds par for the course for lots of twenty something relationships. And I’m guessing it felt worse because it rode the coat tails of your marriage. I got lucky and met my true love young but I did have an earlier relationship with someone who was a really bad fit for me. I wasn’t always myself when I was around him and I hated how he treated me. I broke up with him abruptly and was pretty mean about it…just laid the truth at his feet and walked out.

When you are hoping for love and it sours or you find out it isn’t what you’ve actually got it’s hard to end it…we keep hoping. It feels better to stick with a lesser known than to gamble on what might never happen. Before my daughter found her life partner she dated some real icks. Scary icky…icky…icky men. Her husband is a fine human being. She needed to do some growing up and live single to be able to discern what and who it was she really wanted.