James, I'm so sorry to hear of your struggles. I wish it were not so. Loss of health is so hard. Staying independent is so important but sometimes age keeps good health out of our reach.

Your voice rings so loudly for the LBGTQ+ community. I love you for that, and know you because of your advocacy.

I have one friend from my younger days still alive. She has other friends but she lives alone and is lonely. And she is afraid for herself. Going forward alone and on social security...she still works but what about when she can't?

I understand your love for Cathy. We've all got to stick together. My friend doesn't know yet but my husband and I are going to invite her to move into our home. We are moving to North Carolina and as we house-hunt we seek a place that will work for all of us. If she doesn't want to move from her little home a few states away, we will still have a place for someone who wants to join us for this last stretch. I'm almost seventy so...

Change seems so slow and when you add a rabid narcissist to the mix and then toss on some Jesus for that extra depth of crazy, it looks like we are just falling apart. Seems like we have built our structure with toothpicks.

But you know, somewhere out there are allies. Other old ladies who want to proceed with some acreage and other like minded souls.

And a garden big enough to feed everyone.

Maybe a few old, crusty cats...