In your first paragraph you indicate that a desired upcoming visit will be technology free.

I have an adult daughter (married) and an adult step-daughter with a boyfriend.

I imagine any of them would be very put off if an invitation to them came with a "no cell phones!" rule.

I know it is annoying. But when we visit, in between texts and other distractions we have lovely visits. We share meals, we watch til tok videos, we talk and play games and laugh. That technology free business sounds a bit controlling and what adult needs that?

My Mom and I always visited. She would ask me when and we would make plans. I would tell her when to come for Christmas and she would fly out to see us. Maybe it's different when you have to travel to see each other.

Soon we will be moving to live closer to my daughter. I hope I'm not mistaken that she will want to hang out with me on a regular basis. Step-daughter is coming over tomorrow, with dinner, for Mother's Day.

It's worth trying out a different path. Grab your hubby and give one of your kids a call to meet you at their favorite restaurant. Even if they don't show up maybe you and your husband can still enjoy a nice meal.