I very strongly believe that your mother's care should come out of her own money and it's hard to understand how this isn't agreed upon by your siblings.

I wouldn't let it worry me too much when your mother says she hates you. She might not have loved you as much as your siblings...this is the sort of thing that you have no control over. And to me it seems like you do your best.

My own mother's favored child is a mess and her choice was based on pity and concern.

Patience isn't always easy but it is a virtue.

Hope is necessary in every condition (Samuel Johnson)

My heart goes out to you Bebe.