Hi Margaret Jan,

Glad your story was curated. People need to read it. I’m a widow too. Although I am remarried I will always be John’s widow.

I know the things you have written and especially relate to your feelings of not knowing how to tolerate what happened to you.

I was 46 when John died. Our daughter was 17. I’m friends with widows who lost their spouses when they were pregnant and I simply don’t know how someone does that.

It’s a hard thing. There are little differences in the paths of each widow but all of us share the same loss of that person we had that we no longer have.

Financial woes. I know about that. Raising a baby without my partner? No idea.

I write here about my loss sometimes but more I write about the way we still have a relationship with each other.

Nobody really knows exactly how tough I am, except maybe another widow. There are still stories I have to tell. I hope to read more of yours. Keep writing…