Cheers to Sophie as she recovers. Did YOU do ok? So hard on a Mom to see their kid go through medical procedures.

I wonder if your ex’s early involvement might have been more to hurt you than to get to know his baby. Was it hard to hand her over even when you needed a break? Chances are he didn’t do the child care then…his current gf or latest wife at the ready to prove themselves to him. (Vomiting in own mouth). I hate it when a dysfunctional man gains purchase by grace of a woman.

Don’t know what to make of familial pattern. My husband’s father left his family high and dry but he’s a caring, trying father to my step-daughter. It doesn’t come easy because he’s had no one to mirror but he’s muddled through.

I think you have to decide what you want. Sort of goes without saying that you can fertilize a large city’s worth of eggs but that doesn’t make you the mayor.